By Rev. Kelly Nieman Anderson
Given July 27, 2025
Throughout July, we’ve been reflecting together on how God’s love calls us to live. In today’s scriptures, God’s love calls us to belonging. In Luke, Jesus teaches us that prayer is a loving conversation between God and us. The Colossians passage reminds us how to live prayerfully, reflecting God’s love within the Christian communities to which we belong.
Our Christian life is full of prayers, from Sunday School to Seminary, and from baptism to funerals. When we pray with others, we learn that each person, and each community has their own way of praying. In this way, prayers demonstrate how we understand God’s love for us, and how we experience God’s love together.
Each family, I’ve learned, has their own prayer traditions, taught and repeated in a variety of ways. Shortly after my marriage, I became the designated prayer leader for my husband’s family gatherings. This continued for years and years, even as I attended seminary and then began pastoring churches.
Then, a few years ago, one of our nephews learned to pray in his Catholic preschool, and was ready to teach all of us the prayers. We all silently bowed our heads while he karate-chopped the sign of the cross and recited something we barely understood. But, frankly, that prayer was more heartfelt and more meaningful than any “professional” prayer could ever be. He’s been the designated family pray-er for years now, and I look forward to his prayers every time.
Praying is a large part of a faithful life, and prayers didn’t begin with Jesus. His disciples, as devout Jews, were also regular pray-ers. They had gone to synagogue services full of prayers, heard the Hebrew scriptures about God answering prayers, and their community at that time incorporated several prayers into their daily lives. Then, once they started following Jesus, Luke’s gospel explains that they have witnessed him pray on at least fivedifferent occasions before they ask Jesus to “teach” them to pray.
So, I wonder, what were Jesus’ first disciples really asking when they boldly demand, “Lord, teach us to pray”? Were they wondering how to pray? Or when to pray? Did they want more explanation about why we pray, or were they just hoping to know what Jesus said during his own prayers?
We won’t ever really know the disciples’ motivations, of course, until we get to heaven to ask them. But Jesus’ response does show us a lot about Christian prayer. Within just a few short sentences, Jesus teaches a new framework for faithful prayer, which is repeated by those first disciples and passed down through generations, connecting Christian communities together ever since. More importantly, though, it taught generations of Jesus’ disciples how to understand God and how to talk with God. Our other scripture reading today, from Colossians, emphasizes this Christian understanding of prayer. God loves us, and we love God. Through baptism and God’s love, we belong to God’s family. As beloved members of God’s family, we pray confidently for one another (and we do not condemn others’ spiritual practices or faith challenges.)
So, we know that prayer is an essential part of the Christian life, and it was an important part of the Jewish lives of Jesus, his friends, family, and disciples, too. Yet, no matter how often we have prayed, or witnessed others pray, it seems that even the most faithful among us struggle to explain the mystery of prayer.
In fact, all too often we treat prayers as transactional, acting as if God is some sort of vending machine into which we can insert our specially worded prayers and receive the one of several answers we’d already considered acceptable. And, sometimes, prayer does feel like that. God promises to hear us and care for us, and we believe that our fervent prayer can heal diseases, prevent accidents, end wars, save broken relationships, and, in general, keep all the bad stuff away from all the good people.
The problem is, of course, that in real life, our prayers aren’t always answered the way we had hoped, or in the time we had expected a detailed response. Sometimes, unfortunately, illnesses get worse, accidents still happen, wars continue, relationships end, and, in general, bad stuff still happens to good people. Over time, repeating prayers in the face of ongoing tragedy, injustice, and oppression can raise doubts in our hearts about the relevance or effectiveness of our prayers.
Perhaps we are surprised, then, by the final verse of our Gospel today. What Jesus promises us in answer to our prayers is the Holy Spirit. That’s it. And although it might not be the answer we wanted or expected, it is of course, what we actually need. When we persist in prayer, God’s Holy Spirit will come to us. When we pray, boldly and expectantly, and courageously, God’s spirit will come to us. God’s answer might not be what we expected, but it is always what we need: God’s love inside of us, God’s love healing us, God’s love transforming the world through us. God’s answer to prayer is always an experience of love, and belonging, and spirit power, often shared together in community.
This week, the ELCA churchwide assembly gathers together, and they have requested our prayers as they make decisions about the business activities of our national denomination. We hope and pray that God’s will is done through their words and actions. We hope and pray that God’s kingdom promises are reflected in their proposals and resolutions. We hope and pray for these people we do not know, because they are part of our Christian community, and God’s love calls us to pray for one another.
I got to attend the 2019 Churchwide Assembly in Milwaukee. During that assembly, there was a resolution up for vote – whether or not the ELCA would be a “Sanctuary” denomination, openly welcoming and inviting immigrants, refugees, and asylum seekers to be a part of our beloved community, regardless of residency status. That assembly was happening during a time when the national conversation about immigrants was very negative, and when Lutheran organizations which had been supporting newly arrived immigrants were facing some serious political challenges.
During that debate, several pastors openly challenged the Bishop as to whether she was ok with undocumented people “barging into her church, demanding assistance”. One specifically asked if becoming a sanctuary denomination meant that immigrants would be sleeping on the floor of churchwide offices in Chicago.
Bishop Eaton’s response was something like, “well… we do have a lot of space, and quite a few bathrooms”
Ooh, I was praying fervently during that debate. I definitely had a response that I wanted to hear from those gathered there. I had an idea of how I thought God’s will is done and how I preferred God’s kingdom to come. But the point of my prayer isn’t to get specific responses from others. The point of prayer is to remind myself that God’s Holy Spirit was alreadypresent in those gathered
Eventually, the 2019 Churchwide Assembly did vote to declare the ELCA a sanctuary church body – the very first denomination in North America to do so. I proudly celebrated with the thousands gathered.
Since then, I don’t think that many immigrants have moved into the churchwide office rooms, but I could be wrong. But, as you know, Chicago has had many asylum seekers come to this area, seeking refuge and assistance, and Immanuel decided to be a part the answer to their prayers.
Such a decision has involved much prayer and patience, but also a lot of prayerful words and actions. The work of creating a specific space to house specific individuals, to open up our beloved community in specific ways… that work is how we live prayerfully every day. For when we ask God to fix everything… God’s answer might be to help us be a part of fixing something.
So, we keep praying. We pray because Jesus told us to. We pray because it keeps us connected to our community of believers. We pray because prayer is not really about a vending machine of wishes granted, but because prayer is about an ongoing relationship with our loving God. We pray because what we need the most – whether we recognize it or not – is God’s own Spirit filling us up with love and belonging.
So, we pray with words, we pray with laughter, we pray through tears, we pray in hope, and we pray in despair. No matter how we pray, God’s love invites us, through prayer, to a sense of belonging and connection and beloved-ness which we desperately need. We pray in churches and in cemeteries, we pray in homes and in hospitals, we pray at school and at sports fields. No matter when or where we pray, our prayers welcome God’s Spirit into us, and our prayers remind us that we are never alone. We pray for wisdom and peace; we pray because this world is broken and we pray because this world is beautiful. No matter why we pray, God’s love is always surrounding us.
We pray, again and again, asking our loving God:
Lord, teach us to pray.
Teach us to pray with our whole hearts, because you love us.
Teach us to pray with our whole selves, because we love you.
Teach us to pray with boldness, because we belong to your loving kingdom.
Amen.









