Proper 18A-26
Immanuel Lutheran, Chicago
The Minnesota Golden Gophers beat the Eastern Illinois Panthers on Thursday 59-7. My wife’s cousin, Tyler, is a big fan. When I asked him how the Gophers were doing, he said, “Man, we’re smok’in ‘em!” I’m a football fan myself, so I confess to having similar feelings of satisfaction when my team dominates another and to desolation when they lose.
In stressful times, retreat into competitive sports fandom can be a source of needed respite and connection. But this type of community is a sort of a sugar high compared to the one Jesus would have us build. True solidarity does not grow by dividing people into opposing camps of insiders and outsiders. Although this is exactly how nearly all nationalisms and religious allegiances have been formed up in the past as well as today.
In the kingdom of God, by contrast, conflict is a source of learning and wisdom, not winners and losers. The culture we swim in has become so combative that nearly every disagreement needs a winner. “We even have language for it. Someone gets “destroyed.” Someone gets “owned.” Someone “slam dunks” on them. The goal is not to persuade the other person, understand them, or preserve a relationship. The goal is to win while everyone else watches.” (Micah Krey, “15th Sunday after Pentecost,” Writings on Recovery and Preaching, 9/6/26)
Combat culture infects our politics and our social media. It works its way into our families, workplaces, congregation, neighborhood, and condo board meetings. When someone hurts us, we may speak to everyone except the person involved. On the playground or on the street, we take ‘one or two others with us’ to even the odds in a fight—not to help us listen—but to intimidate. No wonder loneliness has become so epidemic. Jesus invites us to move in the opposite direction. (Krey)
Since ancient times, our gospels, like the one we read from Matthew, encourage us not to run from but to explore our differences and conflicts—not with anger or shame—but with curiosity and listening. They encourage us to find real connection again by sharing our stories and gleaning the wisdom that is found there.
Good things come from talking to people with different ideas and opinions. Parker J. Palmer, author of Healing the Heart of Democracy, reminds us that this country was born out of our difference. “At the Constitutional Convention of 1787, 30 percent of the delegates walked out without signing the thing — and those who did sign disagreed so fundamentally that they were forced to create a conflict-holding system of government. In fact, they created the first form of government that treats conflict not as the enemy of a good social order but as the engine of a better social order. Conflict can be creative, and we have to recover that sensibility.” (Parker J. Palmer, as quoted in Reclaiming We the People, NYT September 4, 2014)
Healthy congregations thrive on honest dialogue and communication to discern priorities, identify opportunities, and set their mission—just as will do in the coming weeks and months as we look forward to ministry in 2030 and beyond. Jesus teaches us to encourage one another to speak the truth in love as God gives us to know the truth. Listen more than you speak. Engage each other in honest conversation. Offer all of it to God in prayer and contemplation to discern the leading of the Holy Spirit.
The lectionary divides our gospel into small sections. But Matthew does not. It’s hard sometimes to discern the context for our gospel lessons. Jesus’ teaching about conflict resolution begins with a child placed in the center as an example of what we must be like, moves through the shepherd searching for one lost sheep, and ends with a warning against receiving mercy while withholding it from another. “Matthew surrounds the practice of confrontation with humility on one side and extravagant forgiveness on the other. Without this narrative context, this passage can become a weapon…within its narrative context, it becomes a practice for people who know that every member of the church stands in need of truth, protection, forgiveness, and grace.” (Krey) Jesus teaches us to build community, not by division but by addition; not by exclusion but by inclusion.
The goal is not to win but to regain a friend, a neighbor, a coworker, or a sibling in Christ. Democracy works and conflicts lead to deeper understanding because God has woven the divine spark of infinite beauty and meaning into the very fabric of our existence. You are a living tabernacle of the Living Presence of the Eternal One. By this we gain a tremendous respect for ourselves, despite the brokenness and chaos we all carry. By this we find the courage to be curious and hopeful in encounter with our differences and each other. The gift of God’s presence makes it possible for us to love not-likable people. The field between us has been leveled. We are all connected. (Richard Rohr)
In the past two weeks, we lost giants among us. Dolly Parton, Wendell Berry, and Gloria Steinem each taught us in their own way how to build communities of inclusion, solidarity, generosity, and joy. They showed us by the lives they lived we could be more than members of competing tribes. We belong to each other, and to the beloved community Christ calls us to now. Each of them pointed to the lesson implicit in the gospel about conflict resolution and democracy to the struggle for justice for all. Faced with opposition and setbacks they were undaunted; their hope and joy were unbent. Each of them are examples to us now as we join their struggle to widen circles of inclusion and to build the kin-dom of God.
There is no shortage of places for you and I to apply ourselves. This week, the United Nations has acknowledged that Earth has lost its chance to prevent some of the worst of global warming’s harms. Global warming will exceed the 1.5-degree limit, agreed upon by the world in the 2015 Paris climate accord, because of warming from the burning of coal, oil and gas. At the same time, it is clear the current Administration intends to willfully ignore these facts, and what’s more, it intends to disrupt mid-term elections by sowing doubt and confusion; making accusations of fraud and rigged voting machines; attempting to secure voter rolls and utilizing the post office to restrict mail-in ballots; assigning federal agents at key polling places to intimidate; and by trying to stop state certification and/or not seat newly elected members of Congress.
Ten years from now—by 2036—regardless of what unfolds—let’s be sure that we don’t look back with regret at what we did or didn’t do. Let’s follow the example of Dolly, Wendell, and Gloria. Let’s do what we can to build the inclusive community Jesus invites us into and to which we already belong. We have one significant opportunity to do this in a few weeks. Make sure you vote. Vote early. Encourage friends and family to vote. Sociologists have determined that just by talking about how a plan for how people are going to vote dramatically increases the chance they will follow through.
Jesus said, ‘wherever two or three are gathered in my name, there I am in the midst of you” (Matthew 18:20). Two people are more than two; three people are more than three. The sum of our individual ideas, resources, and abilities is multiplied with the synergies God’s presence provides. God is the real life 24/7 social network to which we are all connected no matter where we go or what might be happening to the local power grid. Low! I tell you a mystery, that though we are many, we are one.









